Blueprint Breakthrough Resources
resources for sexual health, awakening, and discovery.
Core Erotic Blueprint Resources
THE IN-DEPTH EROTIC BLUEPRINT QUIZ/ASSESSMENT
The Blueprint quiz reveals your Primary Erotic Blueprint Type. The in-depth assessment details your complete “Pleasure Profile,” which shows you how you uniquely relate to sex through each of the five Erotic Blueprint Types. This personalized plea-sure map shows you the many routes to creating a life filled with healthy intimacy, sexy vitality, and sexual satisfaction.
THE EROTIC BLUEPRINT BREAKTHROUGH COURSE
This is our flagship Erotic Blueprint Training. It’s an eight-module online course
providing a comprehensive exploration and expansion of the Erotic Blueprints.
ALL COURSES AVAILABLE FROM THE BLUEPRINT BREAKTHROUGH, INC.
This is where you can access all our currently available courses, live workshops,
luxury retreats, and trainings.
THE EROTIC BLUEPRINT COACH DIRECTORY
Find a Certified Erotic Blueprint Coach for personalized support. Please note that Blueprint Coaches are independent contractors and operate independently of the Blueprint Breakthrough, Inc. A Blueprint Coach is required to adhere to set ethical standards to retain their certification.
SEX-POSITIVE ONLINE COMMUNITY—EROTIC FREEDOM CLUB
This is our membership community, where the Erotic Blueprints are the foundational framework. We offer trainings, group coaching support, and a safer space to explore all that is erotically possible.
Blueprint-Related Products and Toys
This is a list of our current recommended pleasure-enhancing toys and products
organized by Blueprint Type.
Mentors, Coaches, Guides, and Practitioners
JAIYA—PRIVATE MENTORSHIP
I offer private, yearlong bespoke mentorships with immersive luxury retreats to
erotic seekers who desire access to empowered sexual freedom and an awakening
to their True Self.
IAN FERGUSON—COACH
CHRISTIAN DUHAMEL—INTIMACY, EXPRESSION, AND VOICE COACH
SATYEN AND SUZANNE RAJA—MENTORS AND COACHES
WESLY FEUQUAY—MENTOR AND TEACHER
ELLEN HEED, PHD—SCAR TISSUE REMEDIATION, EDUCATION, AND MANAGEMENT
ORI ZIMMELS—MENTOR, PHILOSOPHER, AND GUIDE
BODHI AVINASHA—FOUNDER OF IPSALU TANTRA
JAELEEN BENNIS—KINK EDUCATOR AND FOUNDER OF BONDASSAGE
ORPHEUS BLACK—KINK EDUCATOR AND PRACTITIONER
JOSEPH KRAMER, PHD—MENTOR
KENNETH RAY STUBBS—MENTOR
Further Reading
Cuffed, Tied, and Satisfied:
A Kinky Guide to the Best Sex Ever by Jaiya (Harmony, 2014)
Blow Each Other Away:
A Couple’s Guide to Sensational Oral Sex by Jaiya (Harmony, 2013)
Red Hot Touch:
A Head-to-Toe Handbook for Mind-Blowing Orgasms by Jaiya and Jon Hanauer (Harmony, 2008)
Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin, PhD (Harper Perennial, 1996)
The Tantric Path to Higher Consciousness by Bodhi Avinasha (Ipsalu Publishing, 2002)
Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel (Harper Paperbacks Reprint, 2017)
A New Approach to Self-Exploration and Therapy by Stanislav Grof, MD, and Christina Grof (Excelsior Editions 2010)
Encyclopedia for Inner Journeys by Stanislav Grof, MD (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies 2019)
Primordial Energy Activation and Transcendence and the Neutralization of Polarities by Zivorad Slavinski (Arelena Publishing, 2007)
Principles and Practice of Spiritual Technology by Zivorad Slavinski (AuthorHouse, 2009)
Kinky Erotic Massage Tips for Lovers by Jaeleen Bennis and Eve Minax (Dymaxicon, 2013)
Radical Awakening in Ordinary Life by Jeff Foster (Sounds True, 2012)
Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure by Sheri Winston (Mango Garden Press, 2011)
Other Online Resources
The Sexual Excitation/Sexual Inhibition Inventory for Women: Psychometric
Properties, kinseyinstitute.org/pdf/Factoranalysis.pdf
This is a paper about the inventory. The surveys are meant to be adminis-
tered by clinical professionals. A self-administered version can be found in Emily Nagoski’s book Come As You Are, pp. 54–57.
Sex Education for Emerging Adults
SCARLETEEN
Music Playlists Themed for the Blueprint Types
Sex-Positive Therapists
ESTHER PEREL
KATE LOREE
CARISTA LUMINARE, PHD
Doctors for Hormone Health
DR. PRUDENCE HALL
DR. DAVID TUSEK
Podcasts
LIFE AWAKE: CONTEMPLATIVE SHORTS WITH JAIYA AND ORI ZIMMELS
Welcome to my new podcast, where Ori and I explore “Contemplative Shorts,”
which are expressions of wisdom condensed into short form. All are aimed at being Welcome to my new podcast, where Ori and I explore “Contemplative Shorts,”
which are expressions of wisdom condensed into short form. All are aimed at being.
Helpful Organizations
MAPS (MULTIDISCIPLINARY ASSOCIATION FOR PSYCHEDELIC STUDIES)
As a nonprofit research center working in the field of psychedelics, MAPS has truly transformed the lives of those suffering with mental health challenges such as PTSD, anxiety disorders, and depression. They are at the forefront of the legalization of these breakthrough therapies.
REGENESIS SANCTUARY—ADDICTION RECOVERY
My cofounders and I created Regenesis Sanctuary to offer a private, bespoke solution to the growing problem of addiction. Using an exclusive, world-class protocol,
our dedicated team guides you on the path to the most fulfilled version of yourself.
ACCELERATED EVOLUTION ACADEMY: ELIMINATING EMOTIONAL BLOCKS
Accelerated Evolution Academy is an organization aimed at helping people create lasting transformation through processes that quickly remove emotional distress. Most Erotic Blueprint coaches and I are trained in these methodologies.
HOLOTROPIC BREATHWORK
Created by Stanislav Grof, Holotropic Breathwork was designed to help people return to wholeness. I recommend finding a practitioner near you if you are interested in accessing expanded states of consciousness, transpersonal psychology, and the Energetic Blueprint.
Legal
NATIONAL COALITION FOR SEXUAL FREEDOM (NCSF)
NCSF is a nonprofit that advocates for people who identify as Kinky and nonmonogamous since 1997 they have worked to destigmatize and provide education about BDSM and polyamory.
DIANA ADAMS LAW & MEDIATION, PLLC
Diana does mediation for polyamorous families and works on non-legal agreements internationally and throughout the US, and provides state-specific legal advice only in New York. They are part of leadership in an international network of LGBTQ+ lawyers and can offer referral for international colleagues.
Emergency Hotlines
For less urgent matters:
NATIONAL COALITION AGAINST DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
For anonymous, confidential help, 24-7, please call the National Domestic Violence
Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
THE TREVOR PROJECT
The Trevor Project provides information and support to LGBTQ+ young people, 24-7.
Notes
CHAPTER THREE
Who Are We? Erotic Blueprints Are Born
CHAPTER FOUR
Erotic Myths
Problems with low sexual desire or SDD are one of the most common causes of distress in relationships, and are the primary reason couples go to see a sex therapist: P. J. Kleinplatz et al., “From Sexual Desire Discrepancies to Desirable Sex: Creating the Optimal Connection,” Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy 44, no. 5 (2018): 438–449, https://doi.org/10.1080/0092623x.2017.1405309.
SCT challenged the ideas that gender is binary and sexual attraction is only based on gender.”: S. M. van Anders, “Beyond Sexual Orientation: Integrating Gender/Sex and Diverse Sexualities via Sexual Configurations Theory,” Archives of Sexual Behavior 44, no. 5 (2015):1177–1213, https://doi.org/10.1007/s1008-015-0490-8; A. Iantaffi and M.-J. Barker, “Mapping Your Sexuality: From Sexual Orientation to Sexual Configurations Theory,” https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/sex/new-zine-mapping-your-sexuality.
CHAPTER FIVE
Five Stages of Sexuality: Which One Are You Living In?
The World Health Organization (WHO) estimated that worldwide, approximately 13 percent of people aged fifteen to forty-nine had HSV-2 (herpes simplex virus type 2) in 2022: World Health Organization, “Herpes Simplex Virus,” March 10, 2022, https://www.who.int/news-room/factsheets/detail/herpes-simplex-virus.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimated that 12 percent of people aged fourteen to forty-nine had HSV-2 infection in the United States as of 2018: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Detailed Std Facts – Genital Herpes,” June 28, 2022, https://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfactherpes-detailed.htm#ref1
CHAPTER SEVEN
The Energetic
The work of Stanislav Grof, a brilliant psychiatrist and pioneer in transpersonal psychiatry, may explain a lot of what Energetics experience: S. Grof, “Dr. Stanislav Grof,” https://www.stangrof.com.
“My consciousness expanded at an inconceivable speed and reached cosmic dimensions. I lost connection with my everyday identity . . . I became everything.”: S. Grof, The Way of the Psychonaut: Encyclopedia for Inner Journeys, vol. 1, 1st ed (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies, 2019); Grof and S. Grof, “Spiritual Emergency: The Understanding and Treatment of Transpersonal Crises,” International Journal of Transpersonal Studies 36, no. 2 (2017): 30–43, https://doi.org/10.24972/ijts.2017.36.2.30.
CHAPTER EIGHT
The Sensual
Hypervigilance is an elevated state where we perceive that there may be some kind of danger or potential threat around us, even when there isn’t: A. K. Randall and G. Bodenmann, “The Role of Stress on Close Relationships and Marital Satisfaction,” Clinical Psychology Review 29, no. 2 (2009): 105–115, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cpr.2008.10.004.
Some of these include exposure to cold, slow diaphragmatic breathing, meditation, vocalization (singing, humming, gargling, and laughing), and, exciting for us, sexual intercourse: “Vagus Nerve Stimulation,” Wim Hof Method, 2023, https://www.wimhofmethod.com/vagus-nervestimulation; R. J. Ellis and J. F. Thayer, “Music and Autonomic Nervous System (Dys)Function,” Music Perception 27, no. 4 (2010): 317.
He told me about a study from Lucia Benetti which demonstrated that some babies even sing before they speak, repeating simple melodies, the lyrics to which they can’t yet understand or pronounce the lyrics: L. Benetti and E. Costa-Giomi, “Infant Vocal Imitation of Music,” Journal of Research in Music Education 67, no. 4 (2020): 381–398, https://doi.org/10.1177/0022429419890328.
CHAPTER NINE
The Sexual
Some Sexuals may wonder if they have a “sex addiction.”: B. Reay, N. Attwood, and C. Gooder, “Inventing Sex: The Short History of Sex Addiction,” Sexuality & Culture 17, no. 1 (2012): 1–19, https://doi.org/10.1007/s12119-012-9136-3.
In relationships, the “sex addict” label tends to be placed on the person who wants more intercourse than their partner: American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, “AASECT Position on Sex Addiction,” last modified 2016, https://www.aasect.org/position-sex-addiction.
According to the World Health Organization, compulsive sexual behavior disorder is diagnosed when a person’s sexual impulses and urges are so intense, they are unable to control their behavior: World Health Organization, “6C72 Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder,” ICD-11 for Mortality and Morbidity Statistics (January 2023), accessed March 2, 2023, https://icd.who.int/browse11/lm/en#/http%253A%252F%252Fid.who.int%252Ficd%252Fentity%252F1630268048.
Babies in the womb stimulate their own genitals: I. Meizner, “Sonographic Observation of In Utero Fetal ‘Masturbation,’” Journal of Ultrasound in Medicine 6, no. 2 (1987): 111, https://doi.org/10.7863/jum.1987.6.2.111.
CHAPTER TEN
The Kinky
My friend Jaeleen Bennis, creator of Bondassage, says that you can make
anything a “pervertible!”: https://bondassage.com.
Research shows that kinky people do not suffer from mental illness to a greater extent than the general population: C. R. Dunkley and L. A. Brotto, “Clinical Considerations in Treating BDSM Practitioners: A Review,” Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy 44, no. 7 (2018): 701–712, https://doi.org/10.1080/0092623x.2018.1451792.
But several major research studies have concluded that people who engage in and enjoy kink aren’t more likely to have a history of trauma or mental illness: J. Richters et al., “Demographic and Psychosocial Features of Participants in Bondage and Discipline, ‘Sadomasochism’
or Dominance and Submission (BDSM): Data from a National Survey,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 5, no. 7 (2008): 1660–1668, https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2008.00795.x; A. A. Wismeijer and M. A. van Assen, “Psychological Characteristics of BDSM Practitioners,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 10, no. 8 (2013): 1943–1952, https://doi.org/10.1111/jsm.12192.
Kink is also empowering to people who have a history of trauma, and can help navigate past experiences of powerlessness, embarrassment, discomfort, and stress: B. L. Simula, “Pleasure, Power, and Pain: A Review of the Literature on the Experiences of BDSM Participants,” Sociology Compass 13, no. 3 (2019): 1–24, https://doi.org/10.1111/soc4.12668.
A 2018 study from Richard Sprott and Bren Hadcock of bisexual, pansexual, and queer kink participants found that kink activities can have many uses . . .: R. A. Sprott and B. B. Hadcock, “Bisexuality, Pansexuality, Queer Identity, and Kink Identity,” Sexual and
Relationship Therapy 33, no. 1–2 (2018): 214–232, https://doi.org/10.1080/14681994.2017.1347616.
A 2018 study from Richard Sprott and Bren Hadcock of bisexual, pansexual, and queer kink participants found that kink activities can have many uses . . .: R. A. Sprott and B. B. Hadcock, “Bisexuality, Pansexuality, Queer Identity, and Kink Identity,” Sexual and
Relationship Therapy 33, no. 1–2 (2018): 214–232, https://doi.org/10.1080/14681994.2017.1347616.
The American Psychiatric Association removed consensual BDSM . . .and fetish play from the DSM in 2013: American Psychiatric Association, “Paraphilic Disorders,” in Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th ed. (American Psychiatric
Publishing, 2013).
According to research, pain feels good during kinky experiences becauseit involves the pleasure and reward systems . . .: E. Wuyts and M. Morrens, “The Biology of BDSM: A Systematic Review,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 19, no. 1 (2022): 144–157, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsxm.2021.11.002.
In 2019, a group of sexuality researchers theorized why pain might beexperienced as pleasurable among those who practice BDSM: C. R. Dunkley et al., “Physical Pain as Pleasure: A Theoretical Perspective,” Journal of Sex Research 57, no. 4 (2019): 421–437, https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2019.1605328.
CHAPTER TWELVE
Determining Erotic Blueprints
Evolving research indicates that practicing mindfulness-based exercises like this may be very effective in restoring connectivity to the brain’s networks: J. E. Boyd, R. A. Lanius, and M. C. McKinnon, “MindfulnessBased Treatments for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: A Review of the Treatment Literature and Neurobiological Evidence,” Journal of Psychiatry & Neuroscience 43, no. 1 (2018): 7–25, https://doi.org/10.1503/jpn.170021.
Research indicates that people with higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol tend to experience lower levels of sexual desire, sexual activity sexual satisfaction, and sexual pleasure: American Psychological Association, “Stress Effects on the Body,” APA, November 1, 2018, https://www.apa.org/topics/stress/body; G. Bodenmann et al., “The Association between Daily Stress and Sexual Activity,” Journal of Family Psychology 24, no. 3 (2010): 271–279, https://doi.org/10.1037/a0019365.
CHAPTER FOURTEEN
The Four Obstacles to Sexual Health and Pleasure
According to research, most doctors don’t ask their patients about sexual problems, sexual satisfaction, or pleasure: J. N. Sobecki et al., “What We Don’t Talk about When We Don’t Talk about Sex: Results of a National Survey of U.S. Obstetrician/Gynecologists,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 9, no. 5 (2012): 1285–1294, https://doi.org/10.1111/j.17436109.2012.02702.x.
A 2018 survey found only half of the medical schools in the United States required formal instruction in sexuality: C. Warner et al., “Sexual Health Knowledge of U.S. Medical Students: A National Survey,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 15, no. 8 (2018): 1093–1102, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsxm.2018.05.019.
Almost three out of every four women experience pain during intercourse at some point in their lifetime: American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, “When Sex Is Painful,” ACOG, January 2022, https://www.acog.org/womenshealth/faqs/when-sex-is-painful?utm_source=redirect%26utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=otn#how.
An estimated 30 to 50 million men in the United States and 150 million men worldwide experience ED: T. Sooriyamoorthy and S. W. Leslie, “Erectile Dysfunction,” StatPearls (May 27, 2022), retrieved October 3, 2022, from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK562253.
A meta-analysis of fourteen studies involving over ninety thousand men with ED revealed that they had 44 percent more cardiovascular events, 62 percent more heart attacks, 39 percent more strokes, and a 25 percent
higher risk of death compared to patients who did not have ED: C. V. Vlachopoulos et al., “Prediction of Cardiovascular Events and AllCause Mortality with Erectile Dysfunction,” Circulation: Cardiovascular Quality and Outcomes 6, no. 1 (2013): 99–109, https://doi.org/10.1161/circoutcomes.112.966903.
The Dual Control Model, developed in the late 1990s at the Kinsey Institute, is the current theoretical model of sexual response today:Kinsey Institute, “Dual Control Model of Sexual Response,” n.d., https://kinseyinstitute.org/research/dual-control model.php
Her ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience) score was an 8 out of 10, which is very high: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs),” https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/index.html
CHAPTER SIXTEEN
Feeding, Speaking, Healing, and Expanding Your Erotic Blueprint
Boost immune function: Sex significantly raises your levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA), an important antibody that is part of your
immune system: C. J. Charnetski and F. X. Brennan, “Sexual Frequency and Salivary Immunoglobulin A (IgA),” Psychological Reports 94, no. 3(2004): 839–844, https://doi.org/10.2466/pr0.94.3.839-844.
Better aging: One study found that feelings of well-being are higher among older adults who are sexually active: L. Smith et al., “Sexual Activity Is Associated with Greater Enjoyment of Life in Older Adults,” Sexual Medicine 7, no. 1 (2019): 11–18, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.esxm.2018.11.001.
Better sleep: Orgasm increases levels of prolactin and oxytocin, hormones that promote sleep and relaxation, so having sex may make it easier to fall asleep: M. Lastella et al., “Sex and Sleep: Perceptions of Sex as a Sleep Promoting Behavior in the General Adult Population,” Frontiers in Public Health 7 (2019), https://doi.org/10.3389/fpubh.2019.00033.
