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Blueprint Breakthrough Resources

resources for sexual health, awakening, and discovery.


The Blueprint quiz reveals your Primary Erotic Blueprint Type. The in-depth assessment details your complete “Pleasure Profile,” which shows you how you uniquely relate to sex through each of the five Erotic Blueprint Types. This personalized plea-sure map shows you the many routes to creating a life filled with healthy intimacy, sexy vitality, and sexual satisfaction.


This is our flagship Erotic Blueprint Training. It’s an eight-module online course
providing a comprehensive exploration and expansion of the Erotic Blueprints.


This is where you can access all our currently available courses, live workshops,
luxury retreats, and trainings.


Find a Certified Erotic Blueprint Coach for personalized support. Please note that Blueprint Coaches are independent contractors and operate independently of the Blueprint Breakthrough, Inc. A Blueprint Coach is required to adhere to set ethical standards to retain their certification.


This is our membership community, where the Erotic Blueprints are the foundational framework. We offer trainings, group coaching support, and a safer space to explore all that is erotically possible.

Blueprint-Related Products and Toys

This is a list of our current recommended pleasure-enhancing toys and products
organized by Blueprint Type.

Mentors, Coaches, Guides, and Practitioners


I offer private, yearlong bespoke mentorships with immersive luxury retreats to
erotic seekers who desire access to empowered sexual freedom and an awakening
to their True Self.


Besides being my sexy lover, Ian is my cocreator of the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough and CEO of the Blueprint Breakthrough, Inc. As a coach, he helps clients manifest their ideal vision for their lives, especially in the areas of relationship, expression, and abundance. His live workshops also use interactive games, music, movement, and practices to help people experience flow state and greater personal freedom.


One of my favorite humans on this planet! Christian is an internationally regarded playwright, lyricist, composer, actor, voice teacher, and voice coach, and is the founder of Cobalt Phoenix. As an artist, teacher, and mentor, he is passionate about helping people discover and develop their authentic voices as they explore the dynamic intersection of intimacy, creativity, and self-growth.


Satyen and Suzanne Raja have been mentors to Ian and me, guiding us in many facets of life, love, business, and spirituality. They are leaders to other leaders, helping them grow into authentic truth. Satyen is also the founder of Accelerated Evolution Academy.


Wesly Feuquay is a mentor and teacher who works with psychospiritual processes to help people heal, transform, and awaken. He helps people live from the truth of deeper knowing that we all possess.


Ellen Heed’s work and mentorship in scar tissue remediation truly saved my sexuality after the birth of my son. She has created an entire body of work and trains other practitioners to help people heal from scar-related physical, emotional, and unseen trauma.


Ori specializes in the exploration and access of internal and somatic states. Through curiosity and permission, he helps people discover purpose and meaning, and develop a deeper and more consistent sense of self. He is also dedicated to helping those who seek to awaken in this lifetime.


Bodhi Avinasha, a founder of Ipsalu Tantra, was one of my first mentors in Tantric sexuality. If you are curious about the Transformational stage of sexuality orEnergetic expansion, Ipsalu is a great place to start.


Jaeleen Bennis is a wise, beautiful soul and the creator of Bondassage, which to me is the poetic dance between the Kinky and Sensual Blueprints. She is a mentor to many and another pioneer who deeply inspires erotic players to play full out!


The boundless ocean of spiritual and sensual exploration finds expression through Orpheus Black’s offerings, blending the depths of kink with the heights of sacred masculinity and femininity. With wisdom as vast as the heavens and earth, he guides seekers through themes of psychosensuality and archetypal psychology, leading them, in his classes, workshops, retreats, and private coaching, to a deeper understanding of themselves and the profound intimacy of healthy expressions of Dominance and submission


Joseph Kramer truly transformed the trajectory of my career and deeply contributed to the creation of the field of somatic sexology. As the creator Sexological Bodywork, he is a trailblazer for embodied sexuality education.


I feel so much affection when I think of this being. Kenneth Ray Stubbs has been a guide and mentor to me, and a shining light for the world. If you are interested in Energetic expansion, be sure to visit his body of work.

Further Reading

Cuffed, Tied, and Satisfied: 
A Kinky Guide to the Best Sex Ever by Jaiya (Harmony, 2014)

Blow Each Other Away:
A Couple’s Guide to Sensational Oral Sex by Jaiya (Harmony, 2013)

Red Hot Touch: 
A Head-to-Toe Handbook for Mind-Blowing Orgasms by Jaiya and Jon Hanauer (Harmony, 2008)

Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin, PhD (Harper Perennial, 1996)


The Tantric Path to Higher Consciousness by Bodhi Avinasha (Ipsalu Publishing, 2002)

Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel (Harper Paperbacks Reprint, 2017)

A New Approach to Self-Exploration and Therapy by Stanislav Grof, MD, and Christina Grof (Excelsior Editions 2010)

Encyclopedia for Inner Journeys by Stanislav Grof, MD (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies 2019)

Primordial Energy Activation and Transcendence and the Neutralization of Polarities by Zivorad Slavinski (Arelena Publishing, 2007) 

Principles and Practice of Spiritual Technology by Zivorad Slavinski (AuthorHouse, 2009)

Kinky Erotic Massage Tips for Lovers by Jaeleen Bennis and Eve Minax (Dymaxicon, 2013)

 Radical Awakening in Ordinary Life by Jeff Foster (Sounds True, 2012)

Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure by Sheri Winston (Mango Garden Press, 2011)

Other Online Resources

The Sexual Excitation/Sexual Inhibition Inventory for Women: Psychometric

This is a paper about the inventory. The surveys are meant to be adminis-
tered by clinical professionals. A self-administered version can be found in Emily Nagoski’s book Come As You Are, pp. 54–57.

Sex Education for Emerging Adults


I often get asked by parents how they can help their teens learn more about healthy sexuality. This website provides inclusive, comprehensive, and supportive sex education and relationship information for teens and emerging adults.

Music Playlists Themed for the Blueprint Types

Find many playlists broken down by Blueprint Types

Sex-Positive Therapists


Esther Perel has been an inspiration, mentor, guide, and friend for over a decade. She is one of the most brilliant women I know. As a therapist and world-renowned speaker, she helps people around the globe build a healthy eroticism.


Kate Loree was our go-to sex-positive and kink-friendly therapist, and helped Ian and me navigate challenging terrain when we started to expand into the Kinky Blueprint. With a hugely compassionate heart and creative style, she helps people find healing.


Carista Luminare is a skillful guide and counselor with over forty years of experience helping couples create healthy attachment bonds. She wisely works on many layers and dynamics in relationships.

Doctors for Hormone Health


I had the great opportunity to work with Dr. Prudence Hall after the birth of my son. She is a caring, brilliant woman who understands the Biochemical realm and helps others optimize their sexual health and longevity


Dr. Tusek and Cloud Medical are another resource for all things related to your sexual health in all realms. They look at the person as a whole being and take a wellrounded approach that includes your biochemistry



Welcome to my new podcast, where Ori and I explore “Contemplative Shorts,”
which are expressions of wisdom condensed into short form. All are aimed at being Welcome to my new podcast, where Ori and I explore “Contemplative Shorts,”
which are expressions of wisdom condensed into short form. All are aimed at being.

Helpful Organizations


As a nonprofit research center working in the field of psychedelics, MAPS has truly transformed the lives of those suffering with mental health challenges such as PTSD, anxiety disorders, and depression. They are at the forefront of the legalization of these breakthrough therapies.


My cofounders and I created Regenesis Sanctuary to offer a private, bespoke solution to the growing problem of addiction. Using an exclusive, world-class protocol,
our dedicated team guides you on the path to the most fulfilled version of yourself.


Accelerated Evolution Academy is an organization aimed at helping people create lasting transformation through processes that quickly remove emotional distress. Most Erotic Blueprint coaches and I are trained in these methodologies.


Created by Stanislav Grof, Holotropic Breathwork was designed to help people  return to wholeness. I recommend finding a practitioner near you if you are interested in accessing expanded states of consciousness, transpersonal psychology, and the Energetic Blueprint.



NCSF is a nonprofit that advocates for people who identify as Kinky and nonmonogamous since 1997 they have worked to destigmatize and provide education about BDSM and polyamory.


Diana does mediation for polyamorous families and works on non-legal agreements internationally and throughout the US, and provides state-specific legal advice only  in New York. They are part of leadership in an international network of LGBTQ+  lawyers and can offer referral for international colleagues.

Emergency Hotlines

If you are in immediate danger, call 9-1-1.
For less urgent matters:


For anonymous, confidential help, 24-7, please call the National Domestic Violence
Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.


The Trevor Project provides information and support to LGBTQ+ young people, 24-7.



Who Are We? Erotic Blueprints Are Born

Jack Morin’s concepts “Core Erotic Themes” and “Peak Erotic Experiences” inspired Jaiya’s creation of the Erotic Blueprints. J. Morin, The Erotic Mind (HarperCollins, 1995).


Erotic Myths

Inadequate sex education, combined with over a century of sexuality research focused primarily on dysfunction, has created a lot of unnecessary suffering around our sex lives: We refer to the field of sex research as sexology. It is the scientific study of sexual behavior. In the late nineteenth century, scholars in Germany, Austria, and Britain pioneered this research. French philosopher Michel Foucault, the author of The History of Sexuality: An Introduction (1978), criticized the science of sex by saying that sex is managed by doctors influenced by politics to enforce social norms and not so much to cure health problems. He believed that early sexual science did not provide the truth of sex by promoting health, but instead, sexology was used to normalize the monogamous, heterosexual nuclear family.

Problems with low sexual desire or SDD are one of the most common causes of distress in relationships, and are the primary reason couples go to see a sex therapist: P. J. Kleinplatz et al., “From Sexual Desire Discrepancies to Desirable Sex: Creating the Optimal Connection,” Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy 44, no. 5 (2018): 438–449,

Canadian clinical psychologist and sexologist Peggy J. Kleinplatz has spent decades investigating what makes up “optimal sexual experiences.”: Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Ménard, Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers (Routledge, 2020)
In their 1973 book Sexual Conduct, sociologists John Gagnon and William Simon first introduced sexual scripts theory as a framework for understanding sexual interactions and scenarios: J. Gagnon and W. Simon, Sexual Conduct: The Social Origins of Human Sexuality (Chicago: Aldine, 1973).

SCT challenged the ideas that gender is binary and sexual attraction is only based on gender.”: S. M. van Anders, “Beyond Sexual Orientation: Integrating Gender/Sex and Diverse Sexualities via Sexual Configurations Theory,” Archives of Sexual Behavior 44, no. 5 (2015):1177–1213,; A. Iantaffi and M.-J. Barker, “Mapping Your Sexuality: From Sexual Orientation to Sexual Configurations Theory,”


Five Stages of Sexuality: Which One Are You Living In?

The World Health Organization (WHO) estimated that worldwide, approximately 13 percent of people aged fifteen to forty-nine had HSV-2 (herpes simplex virus type 2) in 2022: World Health Organization, “Herpes Simplex Virus,” March 10, 2022,

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimated that 12 percent of people aged fourteen to forty-nine had HSV-2 infection in the United States as of 2018: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Detailed Std Facts – Genital Herpes,” June 28, 2022,


The Energetic

The work of Stanislav Grof, a brilliant psychiatrist and pioneer in transpersonal psychiatry, may explain a lot of what Energetics experience: S. Grof, “Dr. Stanislav Grof,”

“My consciousness expanded at an inconceivable speed and reached cosmic dimensions. I lost connection with my everyday identity . . . I became everything.”: S. Grof, The Way of the Psychonaut: Encyclopedia for Inner Journeys, vol. 1, 1st ed (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies, 2019); Grof and S. Grof, “Spiritual Emergency: The Understanding and Treatment of Transpersonal Crises,” International Journal of Transpersonal Studies 36, no. 2 (2017): 30–43,

Biomagnetics is the study of magnetic fields produced by living organisms: J. L. Oschman, Energy Medicine: The Scientific Basis, 2nd ed. (Elsevier, 2016).


The Sensual

Hypervigilance is an elevated state where we perceive that there may be some kind of danger or potential threat around us, even when there isn’t: A. K. Randall and G. Bodenmann, “The Role of Stress on Close Relationships and Marital Satisfaction,” Clinical Psychology Review 29, no. 2 (2009): 105–115,

Some of these include exposure to cold, slow diaphragmatic breathing, meditation, vocalization (singing, humming, gargling, and laughing), and, exciting for us, sexual intercourse: “Vagus Nerve Stimulation,” Wim Hof Method, 2023,; R. J. Ellis and J. F. Thayer, “Music and Autonomic Nervous System (Dys)Function,” Music Perception 27, no. 4 (2010): 317.

He told me about a study from Lucia Benetti which demonstrated that some babies even sing before they speak, repeating simple melodies, the lyrics to which they can’t yet understand or pronounce the lyrics: L. Benetti and E. Costa-Giomi, “Infant Vocal Imitation of Music,” Journal of Research in Music Education 67, no. 4 (2020): 381–398,


The Sexual

Some Sexuals may wonder if they have a “sex addiction.”: B. Reay, N. Attwood, and C. Gooder, “Inventing Sex: The Short History of Sex Addiction,” Sexuality & Culture 17, no. 1 (2012): 1–19,

In relationships, the “sex addict” label tends to be placed on the person who wants more intercourse than their partner: American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, “AASECT Position on Sex Addiction,” last modified 2016,

According to the World Health Organization, compulsive sexual behavior disorder is diagnosed when a person’s sexual impulses and urges are so intense, they are unable to control their behavior: World Health Organization, “6C72 Compulsive Sexual Behaviour Disorder,” ICD-11 for Mortality and Morbidity Statistics (January 2023), accessed March 2, 2023,

She says that guilt is when we say to ourselves “I’ve done something wrong or bad.” And shame is when we say to ourselves “I am bad.”: B. Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, 1st ed. (Hazelden Publishing, 2010)

Babies in the womb stimulate their own genitals: I. Meizner, “Sonographic Observation of In Utero Fetal ‘Masturbation,’” Journal of Ultrasound in Medicine 6, no. 2 (1987): 111,


The Kinky

My friend Jaeleen Bennis, creator of Bondassage, says that you can make
anything a “pervertible!”:

Research shows that kinky people do not suffer from mental illness to a greater extent than the general population: C. R. Dunkley and L. A. Brotto, “Clinical Considerations in Treating BDSM Practitioners: A Review,” Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy 44, no. 7 (2018): 701–712,

But several major research studies have concluded that people who engage in and enjoy kink aren’t more likely to have a history of trauma or mental illness: J. Richters et al., “Demographic and Psychosocial Features of Participants in Bondage and Discipline, ‘Sadomasochism’
or Dominance and Submission (BDSM): Data from a National Survey,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 5, no. 7 (2008): 1660–1668,; A. A. Wismeijer and M. A. van Assen, “Psychological Characteristics of BDSM Practitioners,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 10, no. 8 (2013): 1943–1952,

Kink is also empowering to people who have a history of trauma, and can help navigate past experiences of powerlessness, embarrassment, discomfort, and stress: B. L. Simula, “Pleasure, Power, and Pain: A Review of the Literature on the Experiences of BDSM Participants,” Sociology Compass 13, no. 3 (2019): 1–24,

A 2018 study from Richard Sprott and Bren Hadcock of bisexual, pansexual, and queer kink participants found that kink activities can have many uses . . .: R. A. Sprott and B. B. Hadcock, “Bisexuality, Pansexuality, Queer Identity, and Kink Identity,” Sexual and
Relationship Therapy 33, no. 1–2 (2018): 214–232,

A 2018 study from Richard Sprott and Bren Hadcock of bisexual, pansexual, and queer kink participants found that kink activities can have many uses . . .: R. A. Sprott and B. B. Hadcock, “Bisexuality, Pansexuality, Queer Identity, and Kink Identity,” Sexual and
Relationship Therapy 33, no. 1–2 (2018): 214–232,

The American Psychiatric Association removed consensual BDSM . . .and fetish play from the DSM in 2013: American Psychiatric Association, “Paraphilic Disorders,” in Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th ed. (American Psychiatric
Publishing, 2013).

According to research, pain feels good during kinky experiences becauseit involves the pleasure and reward systems . . .: E. Wuyts and M. Morrens, “The Biology of BDSM: A Systematic Review,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 19, no. 1 (2022): 144–157,

In 2019, a group of sexuality researchers theorized why pain might beexperienced as pleasurable among those who practice BDSM: C. R. Dunkley et al., “Physical Pain as Pleasure: A Theoretical Perspective,” Journal of Sex Research 57, no. 4 (2019): 421–437,


Determining Erotic Blueprints

Evolving research indicates that practicing mindfulness-based exercises like this may be very effective in restoring connectivity to the brain’s networks: J. E. Boyd, R. A. Lanius, and M. C. McKinnon, “MindfulnessBased Treatments for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: A Review of the Treatment Literature and Neurobiological Evidence,” Journal of Psychiatry & Neuroscience 43, no. 1 (2018): 7–25,

Research indicates that people with higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol tend to experience lower levels of sexual desire, sexual activity sexual satisfaction, and sexual pleasure: American Psychological Association, “Stress Effects on the Body,” APA, November 1, 2018,; G. Bodenmann et al., “The Association between Daily Stress and Sexual Activity,” Journal of Family Psychology 24, no. 3 (2010): 271–279,


The Four Obstacles to Sexual Health and Pleasure

According to research, most doctors don’t ask their patients about sexual problems, sexual satisfaction, or pleasure: J. N. Sobecki et al., “What We Don’t Talk about When We Don’t Talk about Sex: Results of a National Survey of U.S. Obstetrician/Gynecologists,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 9, no. 5 (2012): 1285–1294,

A 2018 survey found only half of the medical schools in the United States required formal instruction in sexuality: C. Warner et al., “Sexual Health Knowledge of U.S. Medical Students: A National Survey,” Journal of Sexual Medicine 15, no. 8 (2018): 1093–1102,

Almost three out of every four women experience pain during intercourse at some point in their lifetime: American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, “When Sex Is Painful,” ACOG, January 2022,

An estimated 30 to 50 million men in the United States and 150 million men worldwide experience ED: T. Sooriyamoorthy and S. W. Leslie, “Erectile Dysfunction,” StatPearls (May 27, 2022), retrieved October 3, 2022, from

A meta-analysis of fourteen studies involving over ninety thousand men with ED revealed that they had 44 percent more cardiovascular events, 62 percent more heart attacks, 39 percent more strokes, and a 25 percent
higher risk of death compared to patients who did not have ED: C. V. Vlachopoulos et al., “Prediction of Cardiovascular Events and AllCause Mortality with Erectile Dysfunction,” Circulation: Cardiovascular Quality and Outcomes 6, no. 1 (2013): 99–109,

I have found that the best processes for clearing emotional charges are those created by Zivorad Slavinski . . .: Z. Slavinski, PEAT: Primordial Energy Activation and Transcendence and the Neutralization of Polarities (Arelena Publishing, 2007); Slavinski, Return to Oneness: Principles and Practice of Spiritual Technology (AuthorHouse, 2009).
The bioelectrical flows produced by organs such as the heart, brain, and muscles are the most well-documented energy fields . . .: J. L. Oschman, Energy Medicine: The Scientific Basis, 2nd ed. (Elsevier, 2016).
The “accelerator and brakes” model was first popularized by Emily Nagoski in her book Come As You Are: E. Nagoski, Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life, revised ed. (Simon & Schuster, 2021).

The Dual Control Model, developed in the late 1990s at the Kinsey Institute, is the current theoretical model of sexual response today:Kinsey Institute, “Dual Control Model of Sexual Response,” n.d., model.php

Her ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience) score was an 8 out of 10, which is very high: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs),”


Feeding, Speaking, Healing, and Expanding Your Erotic Blueprint

Boost immune function: Sex significantly raises your levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA), an important antibody that is part of your
immune system: C. J. Charnetski and F. X. Brennan, “Sexual Frequency and Salivary Immunoglobulin A (IgA),” Psychological Reports 94, no. 3(2004): 839–844,

Better aging: One study found that feelings of well-being are higher among older adults who are sexually active: L. Smith et al., “Sexual Activity Is Associated with Greater Enjoyment of Life in Older Adults,” Sexual Medicine 7, no. 1 (2019): 11–18,

Better sleep: Orgasm increases levels of prolactin and oxytocin, hormones that promote sleep and relaxation, so having sex may make it easier to fall asleep: M. Lastella et al., “Sex and Sleep: Perceptions of Sex as a Sleep Promoting Behavior in the General Adult Population,” Frontiers in Public Health 7 (2019),